When we talk about intelligence, the first thing that comes to mind is often "book smart."
But there are many other types of intelligence, like emotional and social intelligence. The latter is the ability to navigate social situations. This allows for healthy, flourishing connections in your personal and professional life.
Socially intelligent people can communicate and interact effectively by reading and understanding others. This, in turn, helps to build and maintain long-term relationships. They have amazing personalities. You probably know them as outgoing, the life of the party, or having people skills.
Nobody is born with high social intelligence; instead, it's a set of skills that people learn over time.
This article covers the common traits of a socially intelligent person to help you understand what it takes to navigate the social scene with ease.
9 Signs That Show You Have High Social Intelligence
If you are reading this article, you may be wondering: Are you a socially intelligent person? We’re going to take a look at the characteristics of people with high social intelligence and help you answer that question.
As you read, keep this in mind — there are some traits of social intelligence that are part of our innate personality. But even if you weren’t born with these tendencies, they are all traits that you can grow and develop.
Empathetic
Empathy is understanding and sharing other people's feelings in a given situation. Socially intelligent people put themselves in others' shoes. They also view things from the other person's point of view rather than their own. As a result, they can pick up on people's moods and adjust their interactions, often with kindness and understanding.
People are full of emotions, and you never want to interact with someone who makes you feel ashamed of your feelings towards anything. Socially intelligent folks know the importance of validating people's feelings, even when they don't understand.
Pay Attention to Details
Socially smart people are quite observant. They notice small details about others that the average person might otherwise overlook. Social intelligence makes you great at reading body language during conversations so you can know how best to respond. You can also catch minor details like clothing, changes in mood and tone, and so on.
Good Communication Skills
Another integral part of social intelligence is being able to express yourself effectively. Effective communication encompasses several things, including the ability to:
- Make small talk
- Speak confidently
- Speak respectfully
- Speak with precision without beating around the bush.
You also want to adapt your communication style to suit your audience. For instance, you may use a formal tone when speaking to colleagues and a more casual one when talking to friends. This shows that you're aware of the needs and preferences of your audience.
Active Listener
It only makes sense that socially intelligent people are great listeners. After all, how can you respond effectively or connect with people if you're not listening to them? And not just listen to respond but actually pay attention to what the other person is saying. They also avoid interrupting or speaking over others and respect others' opinions.
Good listeners make others feel heard, thus creating deeper connections and better relationships.
Understand Non-Verbal Communication
A huge part of communication is usually non-verbal. While you may get the essence of what people are saying, something will be lost in translation if you ignore non-verbal cues.
People with high social intelligence have a talent for reading people. Thus, they can pick up on non-verbal cues, including gestures, tone, postures, and facial expressions.
High social intelligence isn't only about noticing and interpreting people's non-verbal cues. It's also about knowing how to use them to communicate with others. Learn to maintain eye contact, sit and stand upright, use appropriate facial expressions, and use the right tone.
Emotionally Intelligent
Emotional intelligence and social intelligence go hand-in-hand. The former is the ability to understand and manage your and other people's emotions. It's rare to find a socially intelligent person with uncontrolled emotions.
Socially intelligent people don't keep their emotions bottled up, only for them to have a dangerous outburst. Instead, they can healthily express their feelings. This makes navigating social situations easier and responding to anything thoughtfully and rationally.
Emotional intelligence also allows you to control your in-person and online responses. You can think before you talk, act, or post without being driven by your emotions or impulsive.
Maintain Open-Mindedness
To have high social intelligence is to be open-minded. This involves being free of personal bias and prejudices. It means listening to other's experiences and perspectives without jumping to conclusions, criticizing, or being dismissive.
Socially intelligent people are also non-judgmental. They don't have preconceived notions about others and thus offer authentic feedback. They embrace diversity and view it as an opportunity to learn, accept, and grow.
Social intelligence also means not judging people based on others' opinions. Every story has multiple sides, and it's foolish to assume what you're hearing is the absolute truth. Plus, you want to avoid being caught up in gossip and rumor-mongering; this is a quick way to lose trust.
Knowledge of Social Rules and Roles
Certain things govern social interactions. And they vary based on culture, socioeconomic class, and relationship. These rules and roles are often unspoken yet expected to be understood by the parties involved.
Socially smart people have mastered these rules and roles, of course, through learning and experience. And this has put them ahead of the game.
Some standard rules of social etiquette include:
- Always RSVP
- Ask permission to use someone's first name
- Knock before you enter
- Thank a veteran for their service
- Don't groom in public
- Praise publicly. Criticize privately.
- Be on time, and so on.
Non-Argumentative
Socially intelligent people understand that arguing is pointless. But note that there's a difference between arguing and having a discussion. In the latter, both parties are interested in listening and are receptive to each other's ideas.
On the other hand, arguing is someone trying to prove a point by being dismissive, making the other person feel bad, or invalidating them. Also, feeling passionate about something doesn't automatically make you right.
Social Intelligence Can Be Developed!
Social intelligence, or interpersonal intelligence as psychologist Howard Gardner would call it, is necessary to help you interact and connect better with the people around you. While some have it naturally, most people learn and develop it over time.
And soon, the healthy habits become part of you.
Now that you know what makes a socially intelligent person, start working on it. We guarantee it will lead to a richer life or, at the very least, make social interactions easier.
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