I’ve had my fair share of challenging jobs, but one job takes the cake for making me genuinely miserable. It was a remote job with so many red flags that even I—an introvert—began questioning whether working from home was all it was hyped up to be. And it wasn’t because I was terrible at my job.
No matter how well I performed, I never felt fulfilled. Sticking it out felt like life was being drained from me one exhausting day at a time. Think of every major sign of job dissatisfaction, and this job had them.
Perhaps you can relate.
Research shows that far too many people are unhappy in their current jobs. According to Gallup’s State of the Workplace report, 60 percent of workers feel emotionally detached from their jobs, and 18% are downright miserable.
Are you feeling stuck in a job you hate? Based on personal experience and extensive research, here are my top practical strategies to help you improve your situation.
10 Ways to Cope If You Hate Your Current Job But Can’t Quit Yet
I believe you only have two good options when you hate your job.
The first option is to find ways to manage the situation while you develop a clear exit strategy and find a better job. The second option is to quit immediately if it severely impacts your overall well-being.
What you shouldn’t do is stick it out for 11 months, hoping things magically get better while your physical and mental health takes a hit. Trust me, I learned that lesson the hard way. But not everyone has the luxury of walking away from a miserable job overnight.
Even if quitting is your goal, you’ll need a solid escape plan; otherwise, you might end up in the same situation again. In the meantime, finding ways to make your current role more bearable is crucial.
Here are 10 practical strategies that helped me cope while planning a better career path.
1. Pinpoint the Exact Problem and Change What You Can
I knew I was miserable at work, but I needed to figure out why. The biggest issues? An overwhelming workload, long hours—including weekends and holidays—and a paycheck that barely covered the basics. On top of that, hefty fines for failing to meet impossible metrics chipped away at my earnings, while performance bonuses felt impossible to achieve.
Initially, I pushed back against everything. However, I soon realized I had to pick my battles. Once I focused on what could change, my situation became more manageable until I resigned 11 months later.
Identify the root of your dissatisfaction.
If it’s the long commute, consider moving closer or negotiating remote days. If you’re overworked, try restructuring your hours or delegating tasks. You may not fix everything, but small changes can make a tough job more bearable.
2. Change Your Mindset by Focusing on the Positives
My first few months were miserable because I fixated on everything wrong. Once I realized lamenting only frustrated me, I changed my approach.
I reminded myself that I had financial stability during a tough period, was good at my job, and had a sense of purpose during the COVID-19 season when many struggled to stay sane. My situation didn’t change, but changing my outlook made all the difference.
3. Talk to Someone
Don’t bottle up all the negative emotions. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, career coach, or therapist. Venting alone can be therapeutic, and sometimes, those conversations lead to real solutions.
I found relief in speaking with loved ones and a like-minded co-worker who understood what I was going through. Be mindful of oversharing with colleagues, as not everyone can be trusted.
4. Take Breaks
When you feel stuck at work, breaks become a survival tool instead of just a performance hack. I came across a study demonstrating that short breaks help improve focus during prolonged tasks. Performance and efficiency aside, the benefits of work breaks include improved well-being, mood, creativity, and motivation.
Since I had no weekend breaks, I relied on the Pomodoro time management technique to take frequent breaks during work while keeping my productivity high.
5. Set Boundaries
Despite my workload, I struggled to set boundaries. That all changed when my boss assigned a task to me in the middle of the night after a long day at work. I brought it up at the next team meeting, and that moment changed everything. It may have taken a while, but setting boundaries made my job much more manageable.
Don’t let work take over your entire life. Don’t skip lunch to reply to emails or sacrifice rest for extra tasks. Set boundaries to keep work separate from your personal life.
6. Find an Activity You Enjoy
Spending time on your hobbies can help you escape work stress and anxiety. I found that journaling was exactly what I needed to unwind, as it gave me a mental break and something to look forward to outside work. Find something that brings you joy and makes you anticipate doing it, whether writing, hiking, or cooking. Trust me, it’s a game-changer.
7. Practice Self-Care
Think about the small but meaningful changes to your work habits and environment that can improve your well-being. Stationing my work desk near the window for a view of nature improved my mood significantly. My other self-care practices included taking long walks at lunch, staying hydrated, and using an ergonomic chair for work.
I also reduced caffeine and sugar, prioritized sleep, and ate nourishing foods. By prioritizing your well-being, you’ll be better equipped to handle the stress and pressure of a job you don’t love.
8. Develop Transferable Skills
I wouldn’t wish a toxic job on anyone, but I can’t deny that mine built my resilience, perseverance, and confidence. I often tell myself, “If I could handle that, I can handle anything.” This mentality helped me in subsequent jobs.
I used my time on the job to develop valuable skills. I took online courses, attended webinars, and listened to industry podcasts. The new skills I gained made me feel less trapped and more prepared for my next move.
9. Build Connections to Advance Career
Building relationships with people who shared my passions and interests within and outside my workplace made me feel less isolated and opened doors I never expected. I attended industry events, joined professional organizations, and connected with people on LinkedIn.
My exploits exposed me to job leads, mentorship, and valuable career advice from people who were once in my shoes. Don’t hesitate to contact people; you never know where one conversation might lead.
10. Look Out for New Opportunities
Don’t wait until you quit to start your job search. The process can take longer than you think, and having a steady paycheck gives you leverage so you won’t feel pressured to jump at the first mediocre offer.
While still employed, quietly explore opportunities. Update your resume, set job alerts, and apply strategically. Stay prepared so you can make your move when a well-paying job becomes available.
When Should You Quit a Job You Hate? 5 Key Factors to Consider
I’ve always believed that only you can decide the right time to quit. A friend once resigned from what seemed like his dream job just months before his wedding. At first, the timing baffled me, but his reasoning made perfect sense.
He had been hired as a field engineer, but instead of working in the field, he spent his days handling paperwork and tracking equipment while the company outsourced fieldwork to contractors. Worse, long-term prospects looked bleak. The assistant manager had been there for years yet earned a discouraging salary.
Instead of waiting until after his wedding, when family responsibilities might have trapped him in the role, he initiated a career change to Cloud engineering, dedicating months to training for a new career with better financial stability and growth.
Knowing when to quit requires deep self-reflection, but it shouldn’t be a reckless decision. Therefore, always consider these five critical factors before handing in your resignation.
1. Have You Done Everything to Make the Current Job Work?
Before calling it quits, ask yourself if you’ve exhausted all options to make it work. Can you address the situation by discussing your problems with your boss or the human resources management? If nothing improves despite your efforts, it may be time to move on to the next job.
2. What Is Your Financial Situation Like?
Financial experts recommend having an emergency fund covering three to six months of expenses before leaving your current job. Assess your savings, debts, and recurring expenses. Do you have enough to survive three to six months without a steady income? Quitting without an emergency fund can lead to stress and rushed decisions.
3. Do You Have a Better Job Lined Up?
Try to secure a new job before resigning from the current role. This ensures a smoother transition and prevents the desperation of taking just any job. If you’re still searching, be strategic. Network, apply discreetly, and use your current role to gain valuable experience.
4. Do You Have a Clear Exit Strategy?
Your exit plan should serve your best interests while maintaining professionalism. Give at least two weeks’ notice to leave on good terms and allow for a smooth transition.
Timing is key. Don’t quit right before bonuses or benefits are paid out. Also, consider peak hiring seasons to maximize job opportunities. If you’re switching industries, map out the skills and steps needed for a seamless transition.
5. What Do You Want in a Dream Job?
Before quitting, define what you truly want in your next role. Is it better pay? Work-life balance? Growth opportunities? Understanding your priorities helps you avoid jumping from one lousy job to another.
Map out your ideal career path based on your passions, interests, and personality, and only apply for jobs that align with them.
Use the Job You Hate as a Stepping Stone into Your Dream Career
Many people stay in jobs they hate, not because they want to, but because fear holds them back. Some worry about the uncertainty of a new role, others feel stuck due to their age, and many don’t know what career would make them happy. I struggled with similar doubts before leaving my job.
But I learned that staying in a role that drains you is never worth it, no matter the perks.
If you’re unsure about your next step, a career test can help you find a job better suited to your personality and interests. And if the test recommends a different career, this career change article offers practical advice on making the switch at any stage of life.
